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Sound advice.
Aug. 21st, 2004 12:50 pmI tend to be a bit of a voyeur when it comes to artists I like. And I like artists. So when Susan Rankin of A Doemain of Our Own got a divorce, my heart went out to her.
She went quiet for a while, trying to sort out, well, a lot of things. Then she started up again, with a storyline to try to explain what the hell happened. Three strips into her story, her ex hijacked her website. He owns the domain, and the webservice is in his name. So, there's fuckall she can do about it. This is her only long term creative venture at the moment, and could concievably have a nice return value on it some day.
I've seen this stuff happen so often... so painfully often... that I have to say something about it. I don't care how much you love him/her/it. Be painfully careful of property. The climate these years is strongly inclined towards relationships of a temporary nature. Joint bank accounts are big, juicy traps, and you'll never get anything back out of them if your ex (or soon to be ex) drains them. If something's your big project, get it in your name. Yours, dammit, not both of you. If you buy a car with your money, it had damn well better be in your name alone unless you don't actually want to keep it if things go south.
It makes me sick at heart when people get hurt by this stuff. Put simply, even if it's love forevermore, bad stuff happens to good people. You're your own person, and you should keep it that way. That's the way I feel. Trust is a beautiful thing. Your SO should bloody well trust you to keep your own stuff.
She went quiet for a while, trying to sort out, well, a lot of things. Then she started up again, with a storyline to try to explain what the hell happened. Three strips into her story, her ex hijacked her website. He owns the domain, and the webservice is in his name. So, there's fuckall she can do about it. This is her only long term creative venture at the moment, and could concievably have a nice return value on it some day.
I've seen this stuff happen so often... so painfully often... that I have to say something about it. I don't care how much you love him/her/it. Be painfully careful of property. The climate these years is strongly inclined towards relationships of a temporary nature. Joint bank accounts are big, juicy traps, and you'll never get anything back out of them if your ex (or soon to be ex) drains them. If something's your big project, get it in your name. Yours, dammit, not both of you. If you buy a car with your money, it had damn well better be in your name alone unless you don't actually want to keep it if things go south.
It makes me sick at heart when people get hurt by this stuff. Put simply, even if it's love forevermore, bad stuff happens to good people. You're your own person, and you should keep it that way. That's the way I feel. Trust is a beautiful thing. Your SO should bloody well trust you to keep your own stuff.
